Working together
The work is shaped around you – your circumstances and what matters to you.
Rather than focusing only on behaviour or what isn't working, we explore what's happening beneath the surface.
What might be driving certain reactions? What comes naturally to you, and what do you find more difficult? What experiences, needs and circumstances might be influencing the way you think, feel and respond?
Understanding what someone may be experiencing is often the first step towards meaningful change.
You are more than your thoughts, feelings or behaviours. We each have our own combination of strengths, sensitivities, experiences and ways of seeing the world. Some things come naturally, others take more effort.
I believe in recognising and building on what's already there, while finding ways to make the more difficult things easier. The aim isn't to fit you into a particular mould, but to understand what works for you.
Our lives are also made up of many interconnected parts. Our relationships, emotions, physical wellbeing, daily habits and environment all influence one another. What brings someone to a session isn't always the whole story, so I look at the bigger picture rather than only the issue that first brought you to me.
Our conversations are open and collaborative. I share what I notice, ask questions, offer different perspectives and introduce practical ideas that might be useful. I may gently challenge an assumption or suggest a different way of responding, but I'm not there to tell you who to be or what to decide. You choose what feels right for you.
As we understand ourselves and our circumstances better, we can begin to recognise where we have choices, take responsibility for our responses and try different approaches.
Together, we explore practical ways to navigate challenges, communicate more effectively and make changes that feel meaningful and manageable in everyday life.
Every parent I work with wants what is best for their child. But we are all so different that it's not always easy to know what your child might need. What works for you might not work for your child, or what you needed as a child is not necessarily what your child needs now.
When a child isn't behaving the way we prefer, something may be happening beneath the surface that they are not able to express. Behaviour is often a form of communication. Rather than simply trying to change the behaviour, I want to understand what your child may be experiencing, what isn't working for them and what they might need.
When it comes to a child's behaviour and emotions, I mainly work with you as the parent. I may only see your child for an hour a week, but you are with them every day.
When you understand your child better, it's easier to respond with greater clarity and compassion and find practical ways to support them in everyday life.
I also work directly with children and teenagers, using their Genetic Brain Profile (GBP) as a starting point. Depending on their age, circumstances and what they would benefit from, this may include helping them understand themselves better, explore different ways of approaching challenges, develop more effective ways of learning and studying, and think about future career choices.
How GBP can offer another perspective on your child →Compassionate support and clear, practical guidance in a relaxed space where you can be yourself.
We start with what you want to explore, and the number of sessions, who joins, and the pace are shaped around you.
At the start, I normally suggest a number of sessions that I think would be useful, but this isn't a fixed commitment.
As things develop, we review where you are and what you would like to focus on next.
Sessions are generally 60 minutes and take place weekly, although we would talk about what works best for your circumstances.
Depending on the situation, we might meet individually or together with your partner or family.
I offer sessions both online and in person. I'm based in Stellenbosch and sometimes work in other areas as well.
If you would prefer to meet in person but aren't nearby, get in touch so that we can see what might be possible.
I'm mindful of the limits of my role and approach: coaching is not therapy or medical treatment. If something comes up that would be better addressed by someone else or through a different kind of support, I will share that with you. What is important is that you receive the support that's right for you.
Taking the first step can sometimes feel daunting, especially when you're not quite sure what you need or where to begin.
I offer a free, 20-minute conversation so we can get to know each other, talk about what's happening and explore whether working together feels like the natural next step. There's no obligation to continue.
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